I wanted to talk about sexuality in BDSM because it’s something that sparks a lot of confusion and controversy among certain circles.
Some folk new to the idea of BDSM might figure that the role of the Dominant is assigned to a man, just as the role of the submissive is assigned to a female. This isn’t true and it’s one of the beautiful things about BDSM and a D/s relationship.
The role can belong to any gender who possesses that mindset and traits. In fact, people can move between the two roles, which has led to some people using the label ‘switch’.
So you see, two men can be engaged in a D/s relationship, just as two women can be engaged in a D/s relationship. In other examples, the woman can be the Dominant (or ‘Domme’) and her submissive can even be a male. There’s no shame in a man stepping forth and declaring he is submissive, just as there should be no shame in a gay couple coming forth and declaring their roles and their love for each other.
I’m of a belief that it doesn’t matter who you are or what your sexual preference is, so long as you treat me with kindness, warmth and respect, I’ll do the same to you.
Another point I want to address relates to submissive men. A man might be submissive and afraid to admit it because doing so might lead others to believe he is homosexual. Yeah, that’s a possibility. It shouldn’t matter and it’s unfortunate it does but a submissive male doesn’t necessarily mean they are into the same sex. Just because you enjoy the idea of anal sex or anal pleasure does not mean you are into men. There’s nerve endings on the ass, you know? With practice, you can stimulate yourself to what I am sure would be powerful orgasms.
I feel like there is an unspoken problem there, between folk enjoying anal pleasure , even at the hands of a Dom/Domme.
That’s media, that’s society talking. Don’t define things by a narrow label – labels are for soup. Enjoy and embrace who you are, regardless of tastes. A Domme women and a submissive man may have a relationship as fruitful and powerful as any other, just as a Dominant man and a submissive man may have a beautiful and healthy relationship.
I feel there are people out there struggling with their sexuality and with their interest in BDSM and pursuing a D/s relationship when they don’t need to be worried about it at all.
If anything, look at it this way: What is sexuality? It can’t be as simple as what’s out there can it? Especially when something like BDSM and D/s relationships are challenging the concept of what it means to like this or what it means to like that? Like love, it can’t be defined, as love is different person to person.
My head’s all over the place with this and I’m not sure I am making sense. At the end of the day, don’t let media and society’s narrow views on sexuality define you. Just because you the mainstream media might be populated with straight sex and news articles and folk frown on your tastes doesn’t mean anything.
If you’re gay, be proud and happy. If you’re a submissive man, be proud of it. If you’re a lesbian, be proud and stand tall because you know what? What you want to explore is beautiful and you are on the cusp of exploring your true identity. Even if it doesn’t work out, look at this way: you tried exploring something most people are afraid to explore. You’re better than those that want to live with hate in their hearts.
Sexuality is fluid. We should be open to experiences and sensations and forget about small minded labels. That’s not who we are.
Wise words indeed!
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Thankyou, dear Annie! Always a pleasure to know you’re reading!
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I always do! Your words and imagination are inspiring ❤️
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And your words always manage to make me smile! 🙂
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Beautiful pic… I may be a submissive female for my male Master but I do love a beautiful girl in my mouth if and when Master allows me the privilege. Sexuality for me is a mindset if it feels sexual and right at that specific time, gender just doesnt matter. Letting go on and with that person is what matters. Of course if I am allowed. 😉
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You create some tantalising imagery, miss. I’m glad you have a wonderful mindset when it comes to exploring sexuality
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Why Thank you ❤️
Sexuality and obedience are my world…its who I am. Your words just make me soak deeper into that world. Its delightful…
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Soak into the world? I’m really glad. I hope I can open your eyes to new sensations
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Yes drown in it even…and you have certainly opened my eyes. I am wide eyed to it all.
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Well, if you ever feel like talking about it, you know where you can find me privately
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I would like that. Thank you.
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Yore welcome, miss
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Beautiful post. I only wish more people had open minds and hearts, like you. Love is love and desire is natural. Safe, sane and consensual, live it.
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Thankyou, miss! It should come natural
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Reblogged this on histoy122's Blog and commented:
Had to share! 🙂
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How right you are. I’m a female submissive but my oldest friend, a woman I went to high school with, is a female Dom, a pet play Mistress whose male submissive is a puppy boy. What makes her a Mistress & me a Lolita? Well, I guess we grew up to have different kinks, we respect each other as people & I never miss a black sheet party at her place.
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Bam!! Spot on…so well said…amen! 💋
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“Label’s are for soup!”
Love it! ❤
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‘Labels are for soup’ – I love this. You speak so candidly.
By the way you make perfect sense! Thank you for this.
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You were worried about something not making sense? I’m glad I could ease your mind, if that’s the case!
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😉 You mentioned how your head was ‘all over the place’ and questioned whether you were making sense. I wanted to reassure you that ALL your words always add up, at least to this slave.
Thank you again!!
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Well, Thankyou miss!
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Sir, it is so good to hear your words. This little slave has never been interested in labels and names as she is a contradiction to them all. It is the soul and heart that she has always been excited and interested in… This humble slave has been book-marked, labelled and stamped with others opinions all her life, she knows It hurts to hideaway in the shadows.
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