The Submissive Male


I wanted to write about the submissive male for a number of different reasons:

A) Because I think Men might be reading this and still shy to speak up to me.

B) Because Men might be having problems coming to terms with the idea that they enjoying being submissive, to either a woman or a man.

C)  Because the notion fascinates me, the Dominant male and I want to open it up to any guys on here that want to talk about it.

There’s this unwritten guy code where men don’t talk about their feelings. To do so would show a sign of weakness, etc. My father possessed that rather complex point of view, brought on by his own father, which was probably brought on by his own father – and on goes this old world thinking down the line.

I don’t want to think like that. I live my life open to all sorts of experiences and sensations. And I will argue and convince over men to do so otherwise.

So if you’re a man and you’re flirting with the idea of being submissive – talk about it. If not to me, then to someone else. (Although, I’d love to hear from your perspective)

Some men might think it is gay to be submissive. That’s folly. A submissive man can be in a relationship with a Domme woman. There is nothing ‘gay’ about that at all. A man might let his mistress play with him anally. Anal stimulation does not equal homosexuality. It’s because anal stimulation is associated with gay men that it’s perceived as a homosexual thing. But so what? Explore yourself.

Furthermore, there is nothing with being homosexual. At all. So you like the same sex? So what? If you’re nice to me and others, I’ve got nothing against you. It shouldn’t be a big deal. But I digress.

I feel like many men have misconceptions when it comes to submission and sexuality and it’s a whole lot of stress. The people that worry that much about it are most likely to end up gay anyway, so there you are.

Personally, submissive males fascinate me. Their mindset fascinates me. Why they submit, what goes through their mind. The mind is a sexy thing so the whole idea intrigues me because as I identify as a Dominant, it’s kinda alien. I mean, sure it’s somewhat similar to how a lady might feel about submission but then men and women’s brains are wired differently.

I’d love to rack a submissive male’s brain. Just like a Q and A session, only relaxed. But then I am fascinated by psychology, men don’t always like talking about their feelings and it’s not like I can walk outside and strike up a conversation with one so I’m at square one in that regard.

If there are men reading this, I say this: Do what makes you happy. Wade through the fear. Follow your heart.

If all else fails, I’m here for a chat.

A Note To The Afraid Submissive

This is probably going to sound like a rant. Like a douche bag rant. Like a tirade that ignores a number of variables, some of which I probably couldn’t even dream of. But I’m going to write this anyway because I’m feel compelled.

I don’t like seeing shy and quiet submissive people afraid of becoming what they desire. I mean, not just women. Men, too. Men especially. I would probably guess there’s been a few men and women here afraid to speak up about their submissive tendencies.

Here’s the thing: you shouldn’t be afraid. Easier said than done, believe me – I know what it’s like to wake from a panic attack because of how you’re feeling. I went through that when I wanted to be in a D/s relationship – when I was in the wrong relationship. And it’s brutal.

But putting aside the fear for a moment – stop living in someone else’s skin. You may be [insert your name here] but you’re going to evolve into a redesigned version of her. Which means tearing off your skin.

We live in a society that doesn’t understand us, that wants to lump us in with the category of God knows what.

You know what? Tear off those clothes. I’m serious, go on. Stop looking at the screen and processing the text like I’m a nice little fable – tear off your clothes. People are home? So? You’re not alone though? The kids are around? fine, take your phone, tablet or computer to your safe zone and tear off your fucking clothes. That person underneath, the spirit that radiates warmth and excitement through your body. That’s you. That’s your essence, your sexuality, your beauty. Maybe you enjoy the sight of a bruise? Maybe you like your nipples pulled really fucking hard? This is going to be someone else’s instrument and you are going to love it. THIS is who
You are. This submissive soul right here. Don’t you dare second guess yourself.

Show of hands who did this? Who took the initiative? Good, I’m proud. The rest that didn’t, I expect you to follow through with this, despite the fear, because guess what? You’re beautiful, you’re sacred. You’re a temple someone will come along and worship.

Consider that activity a war cry, a beacon to others for empowerment. I want you all to practice, day by day, piece by piece, shedding your skin – till nothing is left but the new you. The true you. The submissive.

Maybe I’m deluded. Maybe I’m harsh. What I’m trying to do is enthusiastically push you all to where you want to be but are afraid to go. Because I’m here. Someone you probably know is here too. And we feel more complete after having gone through the journey.

So happy Sunday and remember to always embrace yourself despite what the little voice in your mind says back to you.