The Incest Fantasy

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See, with most people, this headline would be absolutely cringe worthy. And make no mistake, it is. The reality is messed up. I’m more concerned about the teenager’s mental instability.

But me? I think in a fantasy world, that’s actually kind of sexy. I like the idea of breaking the rules, blurring the lines. We are sexual people, don’t hold back. Face who you are. And if she doesn’t want it, take it from her.

That part just speaks to my beastly side but that it’s mother and son makes it sexier.

But it doesn’t have to be mother and son, it could be mother and daughter, sister and sister, brother and sister, father and daughter. It’s the fantasy of incest that’s intriguing to me.

It’s the notion of incest that I find fascinating. I don’t agree with it but I will listen to the arguments of a couple in a incestuous relationship because that kind of adult relationship would be fascinating to someone like me.

The fantasy I like to indulge. But that’s another story.

Dark Roleplaying: Safely Exploring our darkest fantasies

It’s the forbidden stuff that drives us. It’s the forbidden stuff that has been linked with Eve taking the bite out of that apple. Oh, luscious Eve – you sensual creature you. Taking that bite was forbidden and yet, that curiosity – that desire to know what that sweet apple tastes like, that drive that compelled her to sink her teeth deep into the apple – it’s what makes us human.

So why do we recoil when we discover we’ve been fantasising about something taboo? A rape fantasy…an incestuous relationship? Forbidden and yet..desired. Why? Because we are human and because, like it or not folks, what makes us human is that darkness within us all that desires these things.

I find it interesting when someone says they don’t have darker sensual thoughts. Fair enough, plunging into an incestuous relationship isn’t for everyone. Maybe you like the idea of being watched by your neighbour as you are pleasuring yourself? Maybe,,just maybe..you find yourself fantasising about a person when out and about?

I touched on why we are aroused by darkness and danger with Sex and Death but now Roleplaying is on my mind — just like forcing my then-pet to squirt onto her parent’s bed was on my younger and more clumsier Dominant’s mind. Why? Because of the thrill of roleplaying, because that forbidden feeling, that intoxicating surge of electricity, is what drives us.

And still the question remains: Why do we recoil? Why do we fight it?

Emotion plays a key role. I think whatever is working within our brains has a part to play with each different taboo we want to cross off the list. Why do we enjoy a rape fantasy? What is it that draws me to the fantasy of holding down a sister and tasting her sweet self and why is it, there is a pang of guilt when I admit to enjoying it? We have to let go of these boundaries. Maybe they hold the key to some sort of enlightenment. But the last thing you want to do, I think, is deny that.

I’m telling you now: Don’t. Establish a safe boundary and explore it. Sit with it, get to know it. You might walk out of the experience a changed person or perhaps a wiser person. Or maybe it’s just like anything else and it just arouses you. Simple as that. Or is it really?

The Daddy Dom in Me

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Here’s the misconception about the Daddy Dom/Little Girl Dynamic: It’s incestuous. The word ‘incestuous’ conjures up many thoughts – pedophilia, incest, what exactly do these people act out?

Those people are going the wrong way about thinking of it. It’s nothing of that. We aren’t saying pedophilia is something to be acted out in role-play, we aren’t saying we would jump into an incestuous relationship, though some would choose to explore said power and darkness through roleplaying.

My understanding about the dynamic is that two people – a Dominant and a submissive – come together to form something else entirely, something beautiful. A Dom is a Daddy Dom if he/she simply has the ability to take on that role in the D/s relationship – the nurturing teacher role. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg there.

The submissive may have childlike tendencies. This may manifest in their behaviours and in some cases, in their speech patterns. Some Doms and submissive’s may be living the DD/lg dynamic without even releasing they are who they are.

And this is where I come in. For when I noticed I was tucking my submissive in of a night and kissing her forehead and stroking her head as she clutches her stuffed toy – it hit me. Something in us has that DD/lg dynamic.

When I noticed that my behaviour simply went beyond being the typical caring person to a nurturing ‘father’ almost and when she expressed how indescribably amazing it was for me to tuck her in, it just clicked that we had that dynamic running in our D/s relationship.

There’s layers upon layers to each of us, if you haven’t realised. Layers upon layers to our psyche and what comes out when we connect with our partner’s true self. The Daddy Dom comes out in me at the strangest times, usually when either my pet or I are at our most vulnerable. ESPECIALLY when she has had a rough day, I want nothing more to comfort her and even go to the point where I will read to her one of my favourite books.

This dynamic can go on to a submissive’s speech pattern. She may fully inhabit the child within and the Daddy Dom may relish this part of her. They may have layers to this role that they can safely explore.

So if you are thinking about this topic and you think it sounds weird or creepy, you’re looking at this all the wrong way. It’s rather beautiful – but I understand that it hits close to home for some people, that it stirs something in them and makes them uncomfortable. You’re still looking at it the wrong way and I would gladly discuss it further until you could at least see what it is really about – but I digress.

So do we inhabit this DD/lg dynamic now? It fluctuates and I think that’s beautiful. We have our D/s relationship and then this animalistic or deep down behaviour comes out organically and without warning. It’s beautiful.