In 2018, You Will Be Alright


The D/s dynamic.

Master. Slave. Submissive. Dominant. Switch. Primal. New. Old. Divorced. Separated. Isolated.

No matter what you’re feeling, no matter where you are in life, 2018 will be okay for you.

It’s easy though feel fear approaching the new year. What have you achieved? Where are you going? How will you get there? What plan do you have?

The thing is, through hard work and determination, through taking one step at a time – no matter if they’re baby steps – you’ll be perfectly fine. It’s an old saying but it’s something that I found when I was at the lowest in my life – things have a way of working themselves out. What that means for you, time will tell – but things tend to fall into place.

But you can’t expect things to come to you. These things take work. Time. You have to want what you’re seeking. And some days you need to challenge yourself, cauterise the negative thinking and get out of bed.

The same goes for people new to the dynamic, new to exploring where they fit into all of this – whether you’re single and looking for the right partner, whether you’re in a marriage and trying to find the right balance –

All you need is patience, love and the drive to explore and educate. You may not feel up to it every day, some days it will be tough and overwhelming and you will feel like you are about to crash, but keep pushing, keep moving. Keep thinking this is just one day, tomorrow is a new start. A fresh start.

You can achieve anything. If I can, you definitely can.


There is no wrong or right way to write to me

I’m still wrapping my head around the fact that people write in to me, because I feel so grateful that that trust exists between me and another person. But the other day, someone wrote in and began their email along the lines of “This isn’t usually what you write about” and asked for no judgement.

Now I know no one knows me. The world is a terrifying place but not as much as the Internet. I understand the trepidation that might go through one’s head when staring at the blank screen before writing in to me. How there might be more than one draft before you get to what you want to say without, in your mind, sounding silly.

But if you’re writing in, or if you’re on the fence for writing in, I am not going to judge you. And I don’t care much for judgement. Any email written to me is a private world to write whatever is on your chest that you want to share with me. I am not in the business of being snarky or mean, even if it does stray out of what I write. And if it does, so what? I am not going to berate you. Or turn you away. I want to listen, no matter the cause.

Heck, if anyone’s lonely, I am happy to chime in and chat for whatever reason. Don’t worry about time, because I am pretty sure I can make time.

So there is no right or wrong way to message me, to talk to me. If that is your plan, if you’re sweet enough to write in in the first place – remember that there is no right or wrong way to talk to me.

And that my door is always open