30 Days of Kink – Day #30: Free Time to Ponder

Write or create a list of whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to.

This is it! The last day! And it lands after the beginning of my Christmas themed stories, sorry for that! The last ten days were hard to get out / keep track of!

Anyway, Day 30 is all about free time so what I wanted to do was have this time for anyone to ask any questions, be they about their lifestyle, my lifestyle or just to talk about any stories I’ve written recently. Please don’t be shy, the only silly question is the one not asked.

The other part of Day 30 I wanted to throw out there were things I’d like to try but haven’t yet, for whatever reason.

Now that my lady and I have a place to call our own, I’d like to fully implement pet play into the space. We’ve wanted to play with cages for a while now, we just haven’t had the space until now. So that’s something to work towards.

While I’m on pet play, I would like a honest-to/goodness run. Lungs working overtime, sweat coating my entire body, my heart racing in my ears, pumping that blood, my cock hard from a mix of feelings.

We live in the suburbs so there’s not a whole lot of option to run nude lest I want to end up on the police’s most wanted, heh!

Maybe one day I’ll write a Stepford-Housewives type of story where someone like me discovers this primal underbelly of his neighbourhood and finds a pack in the people around him. Maybe we’re all possessed by the spirit of the country, that could be gold. Maybe my main character will fight the alpha and it’ll end in murder, blood in his mouth, jugular torn out, cock hard. Feral. A mix of savagery and eroticism and just thriller. Annnnyway.

Then there’s the idea of collaborating in erotic art with someone. I like the idea of writing a story with someone of the opposite sex / dynamic, you know? I’ve worked on ideas with kitten in the past – we meld concepts and I do the writing – but I’m always looking for different voices too.

3 thoughts on “30 Days of Kink – Day #30: Free Time to Ponder

  1. Hi, firstly, I’ve really enjoyed reading your posts for #30 days of Kink. I’m also very impressed by your 12 Days of Kinkmas posts. Are they all your work? They’re really good and all in different styles.
    My second question is:
    Do you have any advice on how I can introduce my kinky desires into my life without endangering the stability of my home life and my relationship with my wife with whom I have a good, healthy vanilla life but who has an aversion to kink (for reasons too long to go into here – but happy to fill you in in an email)?
    This must be a very common issue for people who finally decide to acknowledge their kinky side later in life and many decades into a marriage. If we had fallen out of love, it would be a no-brained, but we still love each other and get along well. I’ve begun to think my desires are just self indulgent. I don’t expect THE answer but perhaps you could help to give me some perspective or offer anecdotal stuff about people you may have known in a similar situation. Having read many of my posts, you’ll recognise how deep-rooted this is so I can safely say it’s not going away.


    1. Hey there! Thanks! I appreciate that!

      The Kinkmas stories are all my own work, yeah. I’m glad you enjoyed them, even the alien one.

      If your wife has an aversion to kink (you are welcome to email me), I’m not sure how you could introduce your kinky desires into it without turning her away.

      Perhaps talking with her about the non-sexual side of it, the sweet side, the psychological side, might help with her aversion, but it’s hard to say not knowing more about her distaste for it.

      I find that there are a lot of misconceptions about Dominance and submission and misunderstanding about the interactions between the two, about consent and how the submissive in question HAS that choice to submit and choose – so if she doesn’t know that, discuss it all with her. Lay it out on the table – but gently. You don’t want to come across like you’re cornering her or pressuring her.

      The couples I’ve known in your situation have built a successful D/s relationship by open communication, by addressing any concerns and taking it slowly at a customised pace.

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      1. Thanks so much for taking the time to reply with such care and thought. I will email you soon as I appreciate that it’s hard to give advice without context and detail. Thanks again. 🙏


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