Regarding Personal Emails

I wanted to touch base quickly, before launching into another post, about emailing me. I answer every and any email, I always will. Sometimes it launches a lovely little chain in which two strangers swap stories and share a laugh, sometimes resources and advice is exchanged, sometimes I cannot help and apologise profusely.

 

On rare occasions, I forget to reply. This could be a number of reasons – I subscribe to a bunch of talented individuals and miss the personal name in amongst the others, other times I genuinely think I’ve replied when it’s just a daydream – which is as baffling as Déjà vu – and sometimes I go through anxious periods where I can’t talk or write. It sounds selfish, but I just can’t find it in me to write. This is a common thing with me, I find. The shows I love have no meaning, my favourite past times become unthinkable. That’s anxiety.

 

However.

 

If I’ve missed your email, or have not responded, do not – I repeat – DO NOT – EVER think that it’s a conscious decision on my behalf. If I haven’t replied in under a week, stick it to me. Don’t let me get away with it.

 

I know, I know – chasing someone up is uncomfortable, you start to wonder – do they care enough? Maybe I’m being a pest? Maybe they’re too busy? Worst case scenario – they’re an awful human being. You don’t have to chase me up, because it’s my responsibility as I’ve offered to communicate in the first place, but I wanted to reassure anyone that no, I am rarely too busy to reply, I wouldn’t offer if I was worried about pests and I definitely care about helping anyone where I possibly can.

 

I wanted to write this because I replied to an old email from a reader just now and I had wondered, as I often do, if there was an individual out there that had wondered whether or not it was okay to approach me personally still or if it was okay to ‘spam’ email me.

 

It’s perfectly fine to do both, should you feel the need. I welcome an open dialogue, be it questions about the lifestyle, about personal issues, about how I write – anything.

To those I’ve replied to in a late manner, I apologise from the bottom of my heart. I certainly hope it hasn’t discouraged you from speaking up in future, either again to me or otherwise.

– TD&D

5 thoughts on “Regarding Personal Emails

  1. I’ve had this happen to me in the past, where I just couldn’t respond to someone because of a personal crisis going on in my life at the time. Unfortunately, by the time I got back to the person, they had already written me off and I’ve never heard from them since. They had been a life long friend too. So I think it’s best to always give people the benefit of the doubt, and never feel offended when somebody doesn’t get back to you right away. You never know what a person might be going through.

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    1. The thing is, for me I often hear ‘I was hesitant to write because I didn’t want to be judged or because I was young or old’ – and it breaks my heart because I don’t care about those things at all! My goal has always and will always be that I’ll help who I can where I can no matter their kink or identification. One of my oldest friends was into bestiality and I never put that against her.

      I’m sorry you lost that friend. Life changes people, warps people. I’m sorry you learned this, Miss Bloom.

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      1. And everyone needs someone like that in their life. A nonjudgmental person who can be there for them. I think it’s great that you’re that kind of person. Wish more people were. And as far as friends go, if someone will stop being your friend after years and years because you missed sending them an email, then they really aren’t a very good friend at all. Friends understand that things happen, and they forgive and move past things that are beyond their control. I guess I just don’t see the need to get my panties all in a bunch over such trivial things. Life is too short to live like that.

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      2. That’s the best part of being older right? Learning that the people that want to be there in your life ARE and those that fade just don’t have it in them to be in your life. And once you accept that, things become a little easier.

        In my case, I offer to help but sometimes lose track of my mind and I wanted to clear it up for those unwilling to track me down – if they need be.

        I won’t get my panties in a bunch because I don’t wear any! But I’ve started to not hold everything together as being my fault

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      3. So true… but why must it take years and years to figure all of this out. Lol…

        It’s always good to clear things up, no matter what the case may be, 😉

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