Don’t. It’s that simple.
Now, I am well aware that I don’t know every unique and individual situation – hell, maybe this isn’t what you’re looking for and an exit is the thing for you. I could argue that you should still hang around, embrace your local community or find what triggered a change in you.
No, I want to talk to the people that are scared and have just signed up to the lifestyle. Or Fet.
To those people, I would say: Be courageous. But be patient. It must feel like you can’t get into it. It might feel like you’re a freak and no one can understand you. It feels like everything is wrong. These waves usually come with exploring your kinks for the first time. That fear and shame is natural, you hear? A natural response from the body in its attempt to find flight or fight.
Running from all that, from Fet, only serves to make your feelings grow. It’s a step backwards and can only lead to desires lashing out in an unhealthy environment. It leads to denial and self hate.
I know this because I was once there, I once deleted my Fet account again. And again. Because nothing felt right. It didn’t feel right.
And it only started to feel right when I accepted that this was me. All of this was my life. It’s who I am. And what I want. And I needed immediately to get comfortable with that or it would eat at me.
Don’t let it eat at you too. Embrace your self because that is gorgeous and wonderful and exciting and sexy as fuck. Be kind to one another.
If you need anything, I’m here to chat. Never hesitate to message me.