Random Friend Requests on Fetlife (And Why It Can Bother Me)

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Maybe it’s just me. Maybe it’s how I roll but I don’t like random people adding me without so much as a message saying “Hello” or at the very least “This is why I want to add you..” To me, it’s just polite to throw someone a message and get to know them before you get to know their insides.

You would’t walk up to a person in real life and be like “Hey, I think we should be friends – you look like someone I’d like to be around” so what makes it acceptable on the internet with social media?

I get it if you’re a ‘performer’ of sorts. I’ve had people on Fet add me and they have 4,000+ friends and are asking if we can all donate to paypal. That’s fair enough, that’s their job. Whatever. But if you’re not, I don’t understand. If it’s a loneliness situation, I feel that but maybe talk to me? I’m more than happy to talk back.

And this is the thing. I am more than happy to connect with anyone over Fet. Providing we know each other a little and get along, either really well, or just on a little level. Although, between you and me, I like to go all out and know people really well.

Collecting friends like baseball cards isn’t what I am interested in. I mean, is it a situation where we’re all just looking at nudes of each other and getting that fix OR are we looking at nudes of these people we’ve connected with — and there’s that special sort of universe established where we can swap tips and humorous stories, I don’t know.

If anyone from WordPress wanted to ask after my fetlife, I would say – sure. Email me and I’ll pass along my username. But send me a message so we can talk and get to know each other one on one so we can see if we get along and such.

But, that’s just me.

 

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9 thoughts on “Random Friend Requests on Fetlife (And Why It Can Bother Me)

  1. I agree completely. When I first joined FetLife I was contacted by a few locals who smelled fresh meat. I changed my location to Antarctica, which successfully stopped that. But then I joined a couple of local groups and events. A local guy, who I’ve had no contact with whatsoever, recently friended me, so I revised my profile to say I wouldn’t accept friend requests from people I hadn’t communicated with. I figured he might take the hint and start a conversation. Instead he just cancelled the friend request! That’s OK too – it shows that he was paying at least a little attention and respected my wishes. But I still don’t know why he wanted to connect with me!

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  2. I get those even though my Fet profile states clearly that I will not accept friend requests from Doms without approval by MY Dom. Got one yesterday! I don’t want to be friends with someone who can’t bother to even read my about section. I agree about the courtesy of an introduction message. If I don’t know you, best you send me a reason for becoming buddies!!! AND THEN there are the genitalia pics! Ugh. Cesspool.

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      1. It makes me feel dirty. I’m all for connecting with my blog friends on fet without intros if I know it’s them, but random dick pics are not compelling enough to get me to accept a friend request.

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