30 Days of Kink – Day #22: What Do you Consider is important in having a healthy BDSM Relationship?

What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

What’s important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? For my money, it’s trust and communication. The submissive gives his or her body over to the Dominant and trusts that they will not abuse that vessel outside of established negotiations. Respect and genuine affection are a must between both parties as well.

In terms of differing from a ‘vanilla’ relationship, a BDSM relationship explores the darkness of the human mind. There are things you’ll encounter in a BDSM relationship and there are things you’ll have to talk about that could never happen in a ‘regular’ relationship. The communication needs to be deep and open at all times.

I’m finding for me that it allows for me and my beloved to be connected in a really beautiful way. We talk openly, about our minds and desires. I guess you could say we are looking at our humanity in a way that those in a vanilla relationship can’t understand or refuse to accept.

And so it goes beyond just talking kink, we can talk about anything – disagreements, the mundane things in life, openly and more clearly because we have learnt to communicate openly as a Dominant and submissive.

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4 thoughts on “30 Days of Kink – Day #22: What Do you Consider is important in having a healthy BDSM Relationship?

    1. The darkness of the human mind – what I perceive to be savage and, yes, dark. The need within me to whip, or her need for degradation and humiliation. I would say those underlying brutal desires are a darker part of the human mind.

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      1. I disagree but then we probably disagree on what experience and perception is. Normal is simply what most people do. Half the population is below average intelligence. Normal is a fscked up idea

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  1. I like your point about how you are looking at your humanity differently. That is insightful and true. I like the deeper communication and stark honesty D/s calls for. I’m enjoying your thoughtful posts to this 30 day challenge.

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