30 Days of Kink – Day #19: BDSM Improved my life

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Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life?

Absolutely. Being in the D/s relationship, one thing that has improved, compared to my previous relationships anyhow, is communications. I feel you can talk to one another openly about things that people in a vanilla relationship would not venture into. Trust and communication are two key components, at least when it comes to my relationship. My beloved trusts me to lead the way and understands that if she is punished, she deserved it for whatever reason and she trusts that I’ll apply the correct and just punishment to the crime.

You explore each other in a raw and dark fashion so yeah, communication is frank and open and as long as she remembers her manners and training, it’s all wondrous and beautiful.

It goes deeper than that, though. I’m not sure I could live a life without being the head of a relationship, sexually or in many cases between my beloved and I, non sexually. If I woke up without dressing her for a lunch with friends or whatever, I would feel like something is missing. If I was in a relationship and she wasn’t collared, socially and otherwise, I would feel like something is missing. I’ve been without BDSM and a D/s relationship in my life and it’s…it’s not pretty. I don’t feel right. There’s something missing.

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