I can go for weeks in my role as a Dominant. To get lost in the role is a marvellous experience, unrivalled for me, of this I am certain.
But for the love of God, don’t get lost in the woods. You don’t have a map, none of us do. You might not get out so don’t venture too far. Always remember your steps for the time where you will emerge back into your vanilla lifestyle, which I think is a useful balance to maintain. Everything needs order, why is your life any different?
Yes, punishing your partner, slipping into your roles and staying in there for a lengthy amount of time transcends you high into the air and it’s great to soar. But remember the old tale – soar to close to the sun and you’ll get burnt.
It’s important to float back down to Earth and remind yourself of who you are. Buy your partner flowers. Take them on a date. Hell, go to the shopping centre and walk around people watch. Do whatever it is you do that reminds you of how much you love this person.
Because I don’t know about you but sometimes when I’m in the role – and I’ve been very active the past 5 days interestingly enough – it can be exhausting. More than that, you don’t want to burn out there. More than THAT, you don’t want to lose the spark. You run the risk of losing that in any relationship no matter who you are but because the D/s relationship takes far greater care than the regular relationship, given the extent to which we bare our souls, we need to make sure it is being taken care of like a prized possession.
Because you might be in a savage mindset, it’s important to step out of it and take a break out of role. Dominant Ones, make sure the mind set of your submissive is in a good place. For all the savage acts you might do together, make sure you give her the necessary time to detox and float back down to Earth as well.
Look after each other’s minds and bodies and you’ll do fine. After that, it’s just rinse and repeat.