The symbolism of the collar appeals to me in so many ways that I could spend hours talking about it.
The sheer depth to this discussion takes a while to process, simply due to what it means and how the symbolism of it can transform both parties.
I can’t speak for the submissive of course, so I’ll talk about my feelings briefly, so you all can read this and go on with your lives.
I don’t know why and I don’t know how but it just came to me — the idea of enjoying collaring someone. It’s beautiful and intense and fills me with a warmth and giddiness. To be that close to someone to grow towards that status — it’s just incredible.
I feel an ownership. She’s mine. She belongs to me. Her body, mind and soul belong to ME. I take care of her now. Not only has it been a thrill to see my submissive wear her collar when she checks into her daily task by photographing herself but it’s a thrill to have her stand before me naked wearing but her collar – the one I gave to her.
It satisfies a part of me that had that terrible yearning for something more. That destructive force that made me realise how much I needed to be in a D/s relationship. I won’t go into that terrible longing unless a reader writes in genuinely interested in learning that aspect that has formed me. But anyway, the collar is a spiritual symbol for me. That the soul of another has submitted to me. In turn, it calmed the storm inside me – the beast that was raging because it didn’t have a constant, the yin to my yang, the submissive to my beastly Dom. Hell, the Joey to my Dawson – or Pacey, if you’d rather. The point was my soul cries out for that aspect. Like a driving force. I’m unbalanced without that. Without that display of ownership – like a vow almost, really. It’s something so simple to the outsider but when I may be out with that submissive, when we are at a vanilla gathering and she’s wearing her collar, maybe I might feel relaxed, fulfilled and at ease. I can’t explain it, just like a submissive might not be able to explain it – but I’ve tried. Hopefully I’ve shed some light for some of you.