Psychological punishment

If my submissive acts out or misbehaves or fails to remember her daily task, I believe more in psychological punishment than something physical. Why? Because I think something raw and mental is far more effecting than a fierce spanking. It depends on the person’s taste for pain though. Do they find it a turn on? If so, then spanking would only increase said arousal, which in turn would lead to the submissive deliberately acting out to get more of it. If the punishment is arousing to either of you, it’s not really a punishment then, is it?

But to take away their collar for a few have them stand in the corner of a room for an hour, with the blinds closed and them utterly naked and lost in their own thoughts…that is far more effective. AND it will give the submissive time to think. They can mull over the details — what they did wrong and why? What can they learn from this encounter? And more importantly, they might never do it again.

Another perfect example of this would be orgasm denial. Have them lay completely still while you achieve climax and watch them sulk. This is not to say that I relish seeing them punished – no, not in the slightest. This is just to prove a point: Don’t disobey me again. This agony that the submissive will surely feel will be effective enough for them to correct their mistakes.

Always remember to let the punishment fit the crime. Be fair with dealing out the sentence because if you are not, it may lead to resentment and internal conflict later on. Don’t overdo it – never overdo it. You do not want for this to snowball into something negative for the submissive. Be sensitive.

I take immense satisfaction in the psychological aspects of a D/s relationship. The mind fascinates me greatly and  so I enjoy pushing the boundaries with my submissive. I learn something new about the mind each and every time.

If you decide to go down this path, approach with sensitivity and caution. Talk about it. The mind can be a fragile thing. Make sure you have a safe word in case things get too intense.


2 thoughts on “Psychological punishment

  1. Each and every type of punishment arouses me, i don’t think it matters what it is. i’m aroused by writing lines, being grounded, being scolded, being told i’m in trouble. i suppose i sort of have a problem, so how would you handle that exactly? Anything my Sir says or does that shows the slightest amount of dominance is arousing. If i ask him permission to do anything and he says no.. anything. So what do i do? i’m hopeless. You know what feels like a punishment? When he’s not around and i’m on my own, but that’s a hard limit, i can’t deal with that.. abandonment issues.


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